This, I am sure, is going to
be a controversial post. The language is rather rough too. But please
understand that I am only thinking aloud and some of the points mentioned here may
be worth considering.
The recent gang rape in Delhi is shocking. But it
is not surprising. In Kerala, Asianet News TV Channel is currently presenting a
news series titled “Makalanu, marakkaruthu”
(It is daughter, don’t forget). Almost everyday, there are reports of minor
girls being sexually used. The culprits include father, brother, grandfather, uncles
and so on. Some of the instances are with the mother’s consent. The victims
include even four year old. Sadly, this disgusting situation has not received
National attention.
You can blame the police,
blame the government, and politicize the issue. But basically, this is a
failure of the society. The matter deserves serious thought. Has the
hypocritical Puritanism in this country of Kajuraho and sambandham (in Kerala the Nampoothiris used to have a wife at home
and relations with Nair women in the area) made things worse?. Have our strong censorship policies
led to a sort of sexual frustration in some men?
Let us take the story about
a movie which had a scene of a pond near a railway track. A woman is undressing
for bathing. At the critical moment a train streams past cutting off the view.
The response of a man watching the movie repeatedly was that one day the train
would be late. This of course is a joke but there might be a point in it to
think about.
In several countries XXX
rated films are openly shown in theatres and on TV. One might find “The Bible”
and “Deep Throat” running in adjoining cinema houses. Senior Citizens get a 50%
discount on tickets for the erotic cinema. In India such movies are watched
secretly. At least we have progressed from the days when the actresses had to
wear body hoses which actually added vulgarity to certain scenes.
Till a few decades back,
sanitary napkins were hush-hush matter. Today the ads about them are all over
the place. Probably the openness about such matters started with propagation of
birth control measures. Nirodh and
the loop became well-known. Then the ads about brassieres and men’s
underclothes started. Now women’s panties are displayed with provocative
pictures. Have these done any harm? Nobody seems to care or make an issue of it.
There are sexual stimuli all
around. It is something that we cannot stop. On a beach in the West, hardly
anyone really bothers about the scantily clad women around. But in India people
cram to watch a foreign lady in a swim suit. A modest Indian woman might take a
dip in the sea fully dressed in her churidar
and come out with her wet clothes revealing much more than what a bikini
would. Of course people ogle.
It is said that the women of
Mumbai are safer because of Kamathripura, the city’s Red Light District. May be
true. Are licensed sex workers the answer? At least such arrangement could
retard the spread of VD and HIV.
There is a great deal of
talk going on about the punishment for rape. Capital punishment is one demand.
Some suggest life sentence. The government is committed to increase the quantum
of punishment. Is it to be the same
punishment for raping a grown up and a minor? In Kerala, a father has been
recently sentenced to life imprisonment for forcing minor daughter to sex
activities.
Perhaps another line of punishment
should be thought of, say, medical interference. Castrate the culprit, make his
equipment sexually useless. Medieval justice? Lynching or hanging till death is
also primitive. If lobotomy or prefrontal leucotomy (a surgical intervention on
the brain in mental patients) is legal, handling a rape offender in this manner
can be justified.
Needless to say, the ladies
should take a great deal of care to avoid danger. I suppose that every girl
instinctively knows the difference in a touch or a look when a man is sexually
interested. The mothers also would be giving the daughters appropriate advice
on safeguarding themselves. Learning some self defense techniques and carrying
pepper spray in the hand bag could be of help.
Of course there is not much
that a woman can do in a gang rape attack. But in the Delhi incident the unfortunate girl and her
relative boarded the bus thinking that it was a White Line public service. If they had
realized that it was a school vehicle the tragedy could have been avoided.
Alertness is essential.
Everyone feels very deeply
for the tragic victim and prays that such incidents do not happen again. The
government and the public have the responsibility
of preventing these crimes.
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2 comments:
The TV commercials...
We were weeping while watching the news about the rape vitim yesterday...In between the commercial advertisement about woman's dresses...crossing all limits for family viewing...Main Malayalam channel!!! what to do?
In china, such commercials are banned...
My feelings are summed up here http://abrahammathew.wordpress.com/2013/01/02/the-delhi-girl/
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